Over the last week we’ve covered a whole range of micro and macro topics around reframes.

Here’s the summary.

The experience was hard come by (😅) and I hope it helps you help others!

1 >> Stand close. If your perspective is too positive or upbeat, I can’t relate to what you’re saying. Try to see the world how I see it first, then point out what you notice (eg. strengths). By standing close enough, I’m more able to accept your different view point.

2 >> Let go. If you’re carrying personal agendas such as wanting to save everyone or have every chat go a certain way, it’s going to prevent you from really listening to and hearing me. Holding space and leaning into discomfort means cultivating that sense of letting go.

3 >> Respect boundaries. Anonymous and single contact support comes with barriers. If we cross these lines we’re stepping into more influence than we can be responsible for, that’s not fair for the person we’re serving and it’s not fair for us.

4 >> Reframe intentionally. This micro-skill offers a uniquely powerful way of shifting my perspective without crossing boundaries. Used right, they can be subtle, persuasive, acknowledging and validating all at once.

5 >> Listen well. Start with acknowledgement. Include validation. End with curiousity. If you remember these basic dot points while you chat with me, you give me the chance to feel constantly seen and heard.

6 >> Make them bad! When learning the nitty gritty of microskills, try making terrible examples. The worse the better. It’ll force you to give yourself permission to fail, it’s fun if you share it with colleagues and better than anything else you’ll learn what works and what doesn’t.

I’m on a quest to help a million people learn suicide prevention skills. Imagine what that would do for the world! If you vibe with that, thank you for pressing the buttons!

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