Said With Courage

Category: Essays

  • Why Couldn’t I Let Go Of Happy Sad Man?

    Why Couldn’t I Let Go Of Happy Sad Man?

    Happy Sad Man is a beautiful, moving portrait of masculinity. But… that alone doesn’t explain the mystery of why I found it SO captivating. Allow me to get a little reflective here and pour these thoughts into the internet. I’m trying to capture precisely what it is about this film that has slipped through my…

  • How To Finally Stop Asking ‘Why’ To People In Crisis

    How To Finally Stop Asking ‘Why’ To People In Crisis

    ‘Why do you think he lied to me?’ she asked yet again, as though we hadn’t covered it a hundred times this week. My eyes wanted to roll as far back into my head as they could, I didn’t let them. I’d been here so many times in my life, with my mum, my exes,…

  • Said Bouziane’s 2022 End of Year Review

    Said Bouziane’s 2022 End of Year Review

    Intention For Sharing These yearly reviews have become something of a tradition around these parts. A tradition I look forward to, each new year a chance to reflect and observe, to count, and be held to account. It’s a chance for you to measure my optimism against reality and ask how well things went according…

  • Stop Procrastinating And Get Productive By Mastering The Mundane

    Stop Procrastinating And Get Productive By Mastering The Mundane

    After a life of wrestling with time, I finally found easy productivity. My life these past few weeks has run so smoothly, I can hardly recognise it. It’s a shock to look back at. The house is clean every morning and night. Budget accounted for. Tasks aren’t building up unbearably. I sleep well and regularly.…

  • Why You Get Triggered

    Why You Get Triggered

    Introduction I always knew about trauma, but only as a concept. You know, images of some homeless guy dodging imaginary gunfire. Recently I realised just how much of my life – in fact how much of everybody’s lives – have been shaped or touched in some way by wounds of trauma. The gunfire isn’t imaginary,…

  • Accurate Maps, The Key To Connection

    Accurate Maps, The Key To Connection

    Real misunderstandings all come down to a simple, easy to understand concept. Hold on to your seats because I’m about to take you on a RIDE. We’ve got to lay out a lot of ground work so bare with me as I first illustrate and I promise it’ll be worth it. My whole life before…

  • Ultimate Beginner’s Guide To Overcoming Resistance

    Ultimate Beginner’s Guide To Overcoming Resistance

    Defining Resistance I think of resistance like a chill. Imagine with me the absence of heat. The wrong kind of stillness. The more resistance we have the more frozen we become. Frozen by our fears. By our judgements. By inaction. Here are some examples of what resistance looks like. I really want to apologise but…

  • Said Bouziane’s 2021 End of Year Review

    Said Bouziane’s 2021 End of Year Review

    Intention for Posting My 2021 Review I’m posting this in the hopes that it’ll inspire you to take action. There, I said it. I want to offer the same light I would have really appreciated in my own life. The encouragement to dare to dream, to go boldly and have courage. I want to show…

  • Said Bouziane’s 2020 End of Year Review

    Said Bouziane’s 2020 End of Year Review

    Firstly, gratitude As I write this I’m able to look up from my laptop at a beautiful view. Bright, sharp sunlight brings out a variety of rich greens across Kangaroo Point. The evil Telstra building stares down ominously with it’s insane array of coms dishes like Sauron’s Eye. And I’m lucky to be here. My…

  • THE TIME I DIDN’T KILL MYSELF

    THE TIME I DIDN’T KILL MYSELF

    SET AND SETTING I grew more distant and despondent as the new year approached. We wandered the cliffs overlooking a long glittering river. Exaggerated caricatures of ourselves only a group of drug addled boys at the cusp of manhood can achieve. Boisterous, arrogant and fragile. A heady mix. Nineteen year old me lagging further behind…