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Acknowledge the thing and tie it in
I know I have to ask about suicide, but it doesn’t feel right. When I first started it felt so unnatural and uncomfortable, like ticking a box; ‘by the way have you had thoughts of suicide lately?’ Ew. I thought the problem was needing to ask. The real problem was not knowing how to ask.…
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Repetition + reflection = revelation
Repetition is necessary, but not sufficient. Reflection is necessary, but not sufficient. Without either, the other is ineffective. Whether you’re providing suicide prevention, making sales, vetting your next partnership, creating art… Whatever you’re doing will improve with the right balance of both. Whichever you prefer, the other is calling. So listen.
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If you like your results, don’t change
Personal growth means having the humility to accept you’re not where you want to be. It means having the vulnerability to let your heart whisper it’s secret yearning. Can you hear what it wants to say to you? To the world? It might yearn for love, or respect, or to heal others. They all whisper.…
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A simple formula for volunteer retention
Volunteer Retention = (reward / challenge) Reward = (intrinsic x extrinsic motivation) Challenge = (readiness for learning / resilience) Resilience = ((self care x self awareness) / support network)
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Don’t Trust Your First Take
The first thought I ever have about anything is almost always wrong. Look inward and see if you’re the same. When I’m right about things, it’s not becuase I’m thinking. I might be feeling, I might speak based on my feeling, when I’m right I rarely have to think. But instant thoughts themselves have never…
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Here’s why he’s defensive
To level up, current-you must die. If the sentence above was easy to read, you didn’t get it. To illustrate, let me show you why I get defensive. When I’m defensive I believe the story I’m telling. ‘I’ve always …’ ‘It’s not like I meant to…’ ‘I just feel like you…’ Without true processing, stories…
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Sensation Versus Cognition
My language system has two engines, cognition and sensation. If I’m using cognition, I get to observe and analyse. If I’m using sensation, I get to integrate and transmute. Most of us walk around completely oblivious to sensation. There’s a difference between feelings and emotions, if you ask someone how they feel about something and…