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Non-Judgement FAQ
What is non-judgement? Non-judgement is a way of listening to people (and even to ourselves!) where we remove agenda and opinion, all that’s left is pure listening. Learning non-judgement is deeply uncomfortable for most people, because most of our opinions and agendas happen without our awareness or even our conscious choice! So non-judgement requires lots…
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A Formula For When Life Sucks
Subtracting Expectations From Reality Leaves You With Happiness Let’s do math! 85 reality minus 100 expectation equals happiness / disappointment level -15. Expectations were too high! Or reality was too low.. (You can define reality how you like, money, flights, intimacy, feeling understood, validating someone, what’s important to you is up to you.) In other…
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Why Updating Your Me Map Is So Challenging
If you want to understand why it’s so difficult to improve your life, this post is for you. You’ll learn about Me Maps in light detail. A Me Map is basically the internal map you have of yourself. They make up half the picture of how accurate maps are key to connecting with people. So…
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The Surprising Importance of Getting Back Up
It’s obvious why we get back up. If we want to succeed… failure is the gate we must pass through. But getting back in the arena has another very important function. Every time we get back up, we actually learn more about the invisible obstacles which prevented us from getting back up sooner. The more…
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Hold Your Goals Gracefully
‘Stop beating yourself up’ is good advice… until it isn’t. It works for anyone with an intermediate level of self awareness and compassion… or at least emotional regulation. In other words, this advice fails most who hear it. Probably, it fails you too. Advice so simple misses the importance of the following complexity; if you…
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Power of Yet
Doubt cripples by building walls around our potential. You can inoculate yourself against the disease of doubt. Start by adding the word ‘yet’ at the end of each doubt. For example; ‘I don’t see how I can solve this… yet.’ Take atomic steps, be forgiving when you fail and keep your eyes on the goal.…
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Stop Shoulding All Over Yourself
‘Should’ holds you back But it feels good to use… We ‘should’ ourselves and get a tiny hit of gratification. I know I should… (insert whatever we’re not doing) With that tiny hit of gratification, kind of like the feeling of calling out hypocrisy, what do we do? Do we declare war and march upon…
