Said With Courage

Tag: Compliments

  • Compliments People In Crisis Can Actually Accept

    Compliments People In Crisis Can Actually Accept

    If the message isn’t landing, try tone it down. When I first started in crisis support work I used to blast people with compliments. I’d line up my reflections about them like I had a big fire-hose to douse the inferno of low self worth. Then I’d let them have it. Often this just fell…

  • Here’s Why Your Compliments Get Ignored – Or Worse

    Here’s Why Your Compliments Get Ignored – Or Worse

    What does every message have in common? Messages come in three parts: what you think you send, what you actually send & what they receive. Let’s ignore the first two as we have only 220 words left. In my early days of anonymous crisis support I’d try show people what strength they had. I’d do…

  • A Sneaky Way To Compliment Someone Suicidal

    A Sneaky Way To Compliment Someone Suicidal

    Have you ever given a compliment to someone only to have them deflect it – or worse? When I first started in suicide prevention I learned about ‘reaffirming strengths’ and quickly got stars in my eyes. ? ‘You mean… making people feel good is a SKILL SET?!’ I was off like a firecracker. Ready to…